I love the concept of sovereignty in a partnership. How does one maintain and hold a place of wholeness and completeness AND allow for deep surrender with a partner?
I think one powerful way to have this is through the notion of sovereignty.
The concept and practice that I am whole in and of and for myself but I will consciously and willingly hand over parts of that autonomy to you at times. I can always reclaim those parts and offer new parts as I move through my life as a complete and whole being in relationship with you. And you, as my partner, get to do the same with me. This is part of the beautiful dance of partnership. It is a moving dynamic thing… it is not static.
Sovereignty – Supreme power; Autonomy; Free from external control (definition)
I get to decide what happens to my body, heart, and mind. I am in complete agency. And the same is true for my partner. We are two autonomous beings with total agency and we choose to be together and in deep inter-relationship with one another. We are interdependent not independent and not co-dependent.
I am doing the personal transformation work and self-confrontation for myself because I value growth. You are doing the same. And this is what allows for total freedom in partnership.
Sovereignty AND connection.
In deep love & honoring,
